When I first had my son, my life was turned upside down.
Shoot, who am I kidding? My kid just turned 18 months and we are JUST NOW getting our heads above the water. I was in a complete magical stage my entire pregnancy and had no idea what was coming. I quickly started asking why nobody told me what was ahead, but I knew I wouldn’t have believed any of those veteran moms anyways. My baby and my little family would be the exception!
The first year of parenthood was exhausting.
We had no idea what we were doing. We were not sleeping, and neither was our little boy. Whoever coined the phrase “sleep like a baby” has obviously never met my son!
We very quickly learned that there was no way on earth we could survive parenthood on our own. We were both giving this parenthood gig our all, and we genuinely wondered how single parents do it. Our level of respect for them shot out the roof.
When my husband and I first got married, he mentioned it was kind of like we were business partners. That is not something a 21-year-old newlywed wanted to hear. Business partner? What about a bride that you are so in love with and takes your breath away?
Well I didn’t divorce him for that comment, and we are approaching 12 years of marriage! I have realized marriage is indeed a partnership, and I am more and more thankful for this partnership.
The dictionary defines partner as “a person who takes part in an undertaking with another with shared risks and profits”.
Undertaking… well that’s a nice way to put parenthood!
You see, my husband and I are in this thing together. We have worked hard to have the marriage we have, and we have worked hard to have the family that we have. There are risks and gains, high and lows, good days and bad days.
The thing is…
We are in this undertaking together.
My husband goes to work each day, and I stay home. I cook dinner, and he cleans the kitchen. He mows the grass, and I (sometimes) clean the house. We are on each other’s team, and we have each other’s backs. We need each other, and we work with each other.
Don’t tell my husband, but I guess he was right after all.
Marriage and parenthood is kind of like having a business partner. And we are all better for it.