As a momma, I want to be LOUD and CLEAR. Let me explain…
I read this book a few years back and just recently got it back out again to reread for motivation! I remember absolutely loving it the first go round and could use a good, swift kick in the pants when it comes to my motivation for running during these super hot months.
MILE MARKERS THE 26.2 MOST IMPORTANT REASONS WHY WOMEN RUN by Kristen Armstrong.
You see, I have always enjoyed reading KRISTEN’S BLOG over on the Runner’s World site. I have read it for years and years. Her writing is so inspirational to me. She is not only a runner, but also a mom and someone who likes to live life to the fullest. I love hearing her stories about parenting, early morning runs with friends, races she’s done, and just life in general.
As I sat outside on the patio today soaking up the sun, I read chapter 12 called “Confidence”. Good stuff about what she feels makes for a confident woman and how it starts on the inside. I came across this line and it stuck with me. She was talking specifically about how we live our lives, our influence and own self confidence affects our children. I read it, reread it, and then knew I had to come in and post this blog.
“If our lips are moving but our actions don’t match, we become a badly dubbed foreign film, without the benefit of subtitles.”
How true is that?! And very biblical. If we say one thing and do another, it just doesn’t make any sense. To our kids or to anyone else for that matter. How confusing is it to a child for you to say “do this” or “do that” and then you don’t follow up your talk with your walk and do those very things? Very confusing. A bunch of jibber jabber. A waste of time. A hard movie to watch, much less understand.
We have to be genuine and real by letting them see who we are, which is honestly scary & motivating at the same time. I can’t tell Addi (our oldest daughter) to use kind words and be patient to Kamryn (our youngest daughter) if I don’t exhibit patience and kindness to her when they are pushing all of my buttons. I can’t tell people I am a runner, if I don’t actually get out and make time to run. I can’t say I love Jesus, but then snuff the poor and needy right here in our community. I can’t say you’re my friend and then not be there for you to cry on my shoulder while you are struggling. It just doesn’t (shouldn’t) work that way. It’s not just lip service.
I heard it said at church once “be who you want your kids to be.”
BE WHO YOU WANT YOUR KIDS TO BE.
WOW..that is scary, humbling, and challenging all in one, right?!
I see how my kids imitate me in small ways often. I know they will eventually start imitating me in other ways, especially as they continues to grow and learn. Makes me really take things into consideration more, like: the words I say, the way I respond, how I act toward others, how I treat Ryan, etc. If I truly want to be who I want my kids to be, it shakes up my whole day.
Do I want them to read the Word daily? Then I need to.
Do I want them to respond with love and kindness to others? Then I need to.
Do I want them to be involved in a local church? Then I need to.
Do I want them to love and date their spouse? Then I need to.
Do I want them to care for their body by eating healthy & working out? Then I need to.
Do I want them to be good citizens in the community? Then I need to.
Do I want them to love their neighbors? Then I need to.
Do I want them to worship God with all that they are? Then I need to.
Do I want them to be real? Then I need to.
You get the picture. This principle helps keep you in check and whips you into shape as a parent! Parenting is such a huge role. It’s quite the responsibility caring for and raising these little creatures that look like us. It’s also an amazing opportunity to grow and press into Christ as well. Obviously, Ryan & I will mess up and clearly we can never be perfect. But, the good news is – we don’t have to be. It’s not about being perfect, it’s about being real and intentional. God has given us these children. So, He will also give us what we need to accomplish this parenting adventure. And our prayer is that we can truly be who we want them to be.
“A student is not above his teacher, but everyone who is fully trained will be like his teacher.” – Luke 6:40
So all that to say & back to the book reference…I don’t want my life to be badly dubbed without subtitles. I want it to be loud and clear. I want people, especially my kids, to truly know who I am, who I love, what I stand for, what I do, and what’s most important to me. I want them to see momma get sweaty and push myself to finish a run. I want them to see me make mistakes and apologize for them. I want them to see me show love to a stranger. I want them to see me make dating Ryan a priority. I want them to see me worship the Lord with all that I am. I want them to see me strive to be better in all things. I want to be confident in who I am, inside and out, and be content in my own skin- even through all my many imperfections– so they will learn to be confident women themselves one day.
That, my friends, will make for a beautiful film! Loud & clear.